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Category: Marriage - Nikkah

Subject:	Nikah vs Rukhsati
Question:	Assalam-o-alaikum, It has been one year since I had my Nikah performed. Since I have yet to be settled and get us a bigger house where we could live with my family, it was mutually agreed that the rukhsati would take place after some years. Hence, me and my wife dont live together as meet occasionally due to us living in different cities. As a result, we do not get enough time together which I fear is putting a strain on our relationship; so i try to spend as much tie with her as possible when she is with me. This year, me and my family plan to go to ziaraat and I want my wife to be with us as it is my belief, doing so would strengthen our relationship. But my family does not want us to have a separate room, due to the fact that we have just been nikkah-ed and have not yet had our rukhsati. I tried to explain to them that being together would be good for our foundation and not being able to do sounder such societal constrictions would further deteriorate our already strained, delicate and fragile relationship. But they are more concerned as to the cultural stigma of being together without rukhsati, that they are restricting our rights as husband and wife by virtue of religion. My wife really wants us to be together as we are religiously legal. So in short, it is between my parents or wife. I could only please one of the two. Kindly advise. and if possible, also please provide some religious references that could help me convince my parents.
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