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O Allah I seek refuge in You from looking good in the gleaming mirror of people's eyes whilst my inward self that I conceal [from others] be ugly in front of You, and from guarding myself [against sins] only for show in front of people whilst You know all there is to know about me, such that I may display my good side to people, leaving the bad deeds for You, in seeking nearness to mere servants of Yours and getting further and further away from Your good pleasure.'

Imam Ali ibn Abi Talib [as]
Nahj al-Balagha, Saying 276

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Question : #213 Category: Marriage - Nikkah
Subject: talking online with potential spouse
Question: Assalamu Alaykum,

I have been talking to a Muslim man online for almost 2 years now and we want to take our relationship to the next level. We have both informed our parents and he plans on visiting soon to meet my family. Although we know each other through talking online, we would like to get to know each other in person before further committing to anything. Is it permissible to go out alone together in public areas (ex, coffee shop, mall, restaurant) with the intention that it is for the sake of wanting to get to know each other better since we have never met in person?

Wasalaam
Answer: Regardless of the intention to marry, the couple are not permitted to dine together in public areas as mentioned as they are still Non-Mahram (an unmarriageable kin).

To move forward, a Mutah contract would need to be announced with a set time period and set conditions (such as restricting physical contact) and the conditions of Mutah still apply which need to be further researched and understood.

With this contract, the couple may get to know each other better in order to marry permanently, InshaAllah.

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